I love Dancing with the Stars. I love watching unskilled dancers learn, grow and master dance. I even got a kick out of Bristol Palin though I was appalled when she won over Brandy. But right now I have a serious gripe that has nothing to do with Bristol. What appalls me is that Jennifer [...]
Is your grief changing? I’m NOT asking if it’s better. I’m NOT asking if you’re over it. I am asking, has your grief changed? During the first few months of a normal grieving process, it’s likely you have gone through many cycles of feeling better and feeling worse and feeling better and feeling worse again. [...]
Who are you? Are you your work? Are you where you live? Are you the house you live in? Are you your parents? Are you your children? Are you your church? Are you your community? Are you your clothes? Are you your hobbies? Are you your pets? Are you what you hate? Are you what [...]
REPOSTED ON GRIEF HEALS I am rapidly coming to the conclusion that the study of grief is best left to the poets and mystics among us. Grief has more in common with love than with any diagnosable disorder. With every attempt to define grief with symptoms and timelines, we end up diminishing our understanding of [...]
Last week I read two books I found rather appalling. Though supposedly about grief, neither of these books will be of any help whatsoever to people who are actually grieving. In fact they will likely do more harm than good. Though The Other Side of Sadness: What the New Science of Bereavement Tells Us About [...]
I’ve been getting a lot of emails recently about regrets. Honestly I’ve never known anyone not to have some regrets during the grieving process, so I recorded this video addressing some of the most common kinds.
Here’s another in the video series on surviving grief. This one’s on the stages of grief. More accurately it’s about how Elisabeth Kübler-Ross got it so horribly wrong, and why we need to stop perpetuating this myth of the 5 stages of grief. I am posting new videos every day or 2 (at least for [...]
The first in a video series on grief…
In the last post I wrote about acknowledging and even embracing your grief. I can feel people recoiling as I write that. The biggest argument I hear is “If I give into it, it may never stop.” It can certainly feel that way and yet, the exact opposite is true…when you give into it, the [...]
