What are your family memories?
Depending on where you are in the grieving process, Thanksgiving may have been anything from wonderful to endurable to downright terrible.
Even years following a death the holidays can be a time when grief reemerges, but they can also be a time for sharing our memories of all the people who are no longer physically present to us.
My family Thanksgiving included recipes handed down through the generations of cooks in my family…my mom’s pumpkin chiffon pie, my aunt’s bacon and watermelon rind, another aunt’s creamed onions, my mother’s turkey stuffing, and a family friend’s cheese wafers.
As we made each one, we shared our memories of the food and the person who taught us how to make it. It was such a wonderful way of sharing those memories with each other and sharing with my niece and nephew who never actually knew most of them.
The same will be true with Christmas memories…everything from how long it took to gain consensus on which tree, to the family argument that always erupted as my father put up the tree and got the big bulb stings of lights on safely, to the plate of intricately decorated ginger cookies delivered by a neighbor.
We’ll remember how totally overboard we all went the first Christmas without my mom and how she always stayed up until 4 am trying to finish something she was making and how often those gifts were received all pinned together.
Even the memory of the puppy who spent Christmas Eve in a neighbor’s garage and ate my father’s beautiful new leather wallet will be passed on to the kids who always get a good laugh out of it.
You have those kind of memories too. Remembering the people we have physically lost and sharing those stories with those who do remember and those who don’t, is healing. It’s part of the grieving process and continues far into the future.
Knowing the power of memories and stories, I was delighted when I discovered ‘Storybooks for Healing’, a program for collecting, writing and sharing your memories via a digital storybook tool. (For an additional fee you can also print your storybook as a keepsake).
This program has been done many times through hospice, churches and funeral homes. Now Joan Hitchens is offering an e-book so you can do the program on your own.
If it’s been 6 months or more since your loss (most can’t do something like this right away), I’d encourage you to check it out. The e-book is only $9.95.
Start to Finish Writing Guide to Discover, Publish and Share Your Loved One’s Life Story
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